Teaching Goal: It’s important to talk about how God created guys and girls in His image and unique to one another.
- Genesis 1:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
- Galatians 3:28 “There is neither Jew nor Greek, sale nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
- 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”
- Proverbs 5:7-14 “Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man’s house. At the end of your life you will groan, when your Slesh and body are spent. You will say, ‘How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors. I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly.”
A kitchen or dining room chair
✓ Words written in bold are when the leader is speaking. Feel free to use your own words.
A. Use this as an opportunity to dialogue with your teens about guy/girl relationships. If you have multiple children or different genders, you may not be able to go as deep as you might individually. Use this time, however, to openly discuss common differences between guys and girls and allow your kids to share and be part of the dialogue. Your comfort with this subject can go a long way to keep the lines of communication open.
B. Do you think that guys can do everything as well as girls? Do you think that girls can do everything as well as guys? What are some differences between guys & girls? Now all girls are the same nor are boys all the same, but generally speaking people usually characterize differences between boys and girls. Of course there are physical differences, but some of the differences are emotional and relational as well. Read Genesis 1:27. Did God make only males in His image? No, God made man (or mankind) in his image, both male & female. Read Galatians 3:28. What do you think God is trying to communicate in this verse? That before God we are all equal. There is no difference in value. We are all equally valuable.
Read 1 Peter 3:7. What do you think God means by “weaker partner” It could be translated “delicate vase” not a sign of weakness in a negative sense. The idea in this passage is that the man or husband should treat women or his wife with honor and care. The reality is that guys and girls are different. Different doesn’t mean better. It just mans different.
We are going to try a little experiment. You have to follow the instructions to make this work. Everyone should do this activity with shoes on. One at a time have each person in your family do the experiment. Most of the time girls can do it and guys can’t, although you don’t have to reveal this in advance.
INSTRUCTIONS: Face a wall with your right toes touching the wall where it meets the Aloor. Put the left toe behind and touching the heel of the right foot, and then bring the right foot behind the left foot, heel to toe. Put the left foot next to the right foot, feet together. So now you are standing, facing the wall, the distance of two of your feet from the wall. Now play a chair turned sideways between you and the wall. Keeping your feet together, legs straight and back straight, bend at the waist and rest your head on the wall so that your back is parallel to the Aloor. Pick up the chair with two hands so it is off the ground. Can you hold the chair and stand up at the same time with your being your legs?
Why did it work or not work? Why do you think it’s usually easier for girls than guys to stand up? It generally works because guys’ shoe sizes are large that girls and girls’ hips are larger, giving them more ability to stand up. It does’t always work, which illustrates that we are talking about generalities and there are always exceptions to the rules. Although most guys are stronger and can run faster than girls, there are some girls that are stronger than some guys.
What are some other differences between guys and girls? Girls are often more sensitive and nurturing, and communicate better in relationships. Guys are often objective, attack problems and talk less. Take time to talk about other perceived differences.
These differences are part of what makes guys and girls attracted to each other. The differences aren’t bad. They are just different. In fact, most girls and guys Aind the differences attractive. It’s part of how God designed us so that we would want to get married eventually and Aind a lifelong partner.
One of the dangers of guy/girl relationships is that many engage in sexual intimacy before they are married. They rob their relationship of the special beneAits God designed to take place in marriage. Read Probers 5:7-12. This passage is talking about a prostitute and a guy, but the truth is still relevant even for a guy and a girls who get involved sexually outside of God’s design.
Take time and discuss with teens some of the differences they see between guys and girls beyond just the physical. Recognizing that not all guys or all girls Sit into a category, what differences do you see i the way they relate?
What do you think would be good rules to have in relationships between guys and girls to help them stay within the God-given boundaries? Early curfews, no exclusive relationships, going out in groups, not being at a friend’s house without a responsible adult are a few ideas. External rules are helpful, but the best rules are the internal rules people establish for themselves. Although parents set rules for kids to help them, it’s best if teens also develop rules that they choose to live by because of the beneSits of obeying God.
Pray and ask God for guidance around boy/girl relationships and that they would glorify God.
Genesis 1:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
Close in Prayer
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