Teaching Goal: When we begin to lie, the truth becomes less and less clear
Scripture: Acts 5:1-11 Ananias & Sapphira lie to God
Proverbs 6:16-19 There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
Materials: 3 buckets of water, one hot, one room-temperature, and one ice-cold
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Lying can become a habit, a very bad habit that hurts you and others. If you tell the same lie over and over, even you can start believing the lie is true. Lying can become a lifestyle or irresponsibility, fear or being caught, and unhappiness.
Everyone has times when they don’t share the truth with others. For example, you may not tell your best friend that you don’t like her haircut. You keep that information private. Or you may have a mean thought toward someone that you don’t share with others. Those private parts aren’t necessarily wrong. We all have them. But when you say, “I like your haircut,” or you start some gossip about the person you felt mean toward, the you’ve made a mistake.
Lying is using words or other forms of communication to deceive someone and intentionally get them to believe something that isn’t true. It’s not only wrong. It’s also dangerous.
Put three buckets of water on the table, with the room-temperature water in the middle. Allow people to touch the room-temperature water. Is this water hot or col? It’s medium.Let’s imagine the following statement is true, “I went to the store and bought a video game that turned out to be too easy and boring. Now I don’t have money to buy my brother a gift for his birthday.” Because I’m embarrassed and don’t want others to know I selIishly spent money on myself instead of my brother, I make up a lie and say,
“I lost the money.” When my parents ask about my brothers birthday, I hide the video game and tell them that I lost the money. Eventually, I start saying to myself, “In a way, I really did lose the money. I wasted it on a game that is kind of like losing the money. I don’t have to tell people the whole story. Now I’ve talked myself into believing the story isn’t a lie.
It’s not the truth. It’s a lie because I am intending to deceive people into thinking that I lost it. When people use the word lost, it implies that they misplaced it somewhere and can’t Iind it. I’m using words and trying to make those words have a different meaning in my head than they have for my friends & family.
Put one of your hands in the hot water and the other hand in the ice-cold water and leave them there for 30 seconds. Now put the hand from the cold water into the room-room-temperature water. How does it feel? Hot like the hand in the hot water.The truth is that the two buckets are not the same temperature. One is colder. In the same way rationalization make may a lie feel like the truth but it is not. In fact, it is dangerous. For swimmers, feeling warm and staying in cold water too long can do damage to the body. The cold water starts to suck hear out of the body leading to hypothermia. Rationalizing a lie damages your reputation. You become less trustworthy, people start to assume you are lying even when you tell the truth and you lack integrity and believability.
Tell the story of Ananias and Sapphire in your own words or read the story from the Bible. Why do you think Ananias and Sapphire lied? They wanted to appear better than they were. They wanted others to think they were spiritual. How do you think they justiIied the lie in their minds? Maybe they said, we made this amount of money, which was true, but it wasn’t the whole amount. Maybe they said, “No one will ever know,” or “it’s not that important for people to know the truth.” What was the consequence? They were killed.
Most of the time we don’t die for telling a lie, but it does hurt relationships and it damages a person’s integrity.
One of the gifts people give each other is the beneIit of the doubt. That means that if we meet someone and hear them saying something, then we believe them unless we know something different.
When a person lies, then they lose the beneIit of the doubt. That means that people are always wondering if this person is telling the truth this time, or is there some way they are misusing words to deceive. The only way to regain the treasure of the beneIit of the doubt is by rebuilding trust. It takes a long time to regain the beneIit of the doubt again, sometimes even years.
Be careful about lying. It’s dangerous!
Do everything without complaining or arguing. Philippians 2:14
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